It is time to face reality: nothing hurts more than a breakup. It doesn’t matter if you stayed together for years or for a couple of weeks, you will always feel the same, like the world is getting over for you. However, we have the theory that the worst scenario is when you couldn’t even start to date and we think it kills you because in a long-term relationship at least you had the opportunity to live something, whereas in the other case, you have to keep all your hopes and plans for you.
Loving is not always a happy experience
It is well known that women do the mourning first than men and the explanation for it can be reduced to the fact of allowing themselves to be sad. I am not suggesting that you have to be depressed or make a drama out of this, but breaking up with someone is still a lost and many aspects in your life change because of that. Understand that this feeling is absolutely normal.
Nevertheless, make sure that you don’t “fall too deep”. You will need lots of self-esteem and self-love to get up again and continue with your life. Some “me time” is required.
Don’t lose the objectivity. It is good to analyze what happened and learn from the situation, but don’t keep bringing this to your mind for a long time as this won’t help. Forgive yourself first and then do the same with the other person, even if they didn’t apologize. What is important now is to clean your heart and hate is never a good option.
I know that you probably don’t feel like going out, but changing the places that remind you about them is good, so make plans with your friends and do activities that you love: go shopping, jogging, or just gather with close people. Anyway, don’t make your breakup the focus of the conversation as your mind need to start thinking about different stuff.
And last but not least, forget about social media. It is hard to resist the temptation of stalking them and their friends, so avoid what you know that can hurt you even more. Now is time to think about the dreams and goals that you put aside and start pursuing them again. Remember that a busy mind never misses someone.
